How important are matching sex drives in a marriage?

J: How important are matching sex drives in a marriage?
My husband and I are polar opposite when it comes to sex. I want it all the time and he rarely does. I get sick of always having to do it myself and would like some attention from him (if catch my drift). He complains sex is all I ever want and would rather sit online or watch movies. Anyone else having this issue? Can a marriage survive a lifetime if one partner is constantly turned down and never satisfied sexually?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Amber Reanea
Soon your sex drive will slow down and you’ll live your life with out thinking about sex all the time it’s like an addiction you just have to wait it out or find a side man

Answer by hammer
My husband and I are on opposite ends of the spectrum also. Except we’re the opposite from you and your husband. We haven’t been married a life time, but we seem to work it out. However, he’s constantly wanting sexual attention and I’m constantly feeling like he only wants me around for the sex (he gives me no attention otherwise). So, I suppose a marriage can last a lifetime this way, but I don’t think either partner will ever REALLY be happy.

Happy-2…good answer, but I can’t agree. Doing that would make sex feel like a chore, and then it would never be satisfying.

Answer by Sarah L
Its extremely important if you want to be faithful. It will effect the way you feel about yourself.

Answer by jackburton14
Personally, I think they’re kind of important but it sounds like in your relationship someone’s going to have to use their hand a bit more than the other.

Answer by Zam
Can become a problem. Although every marriage usually settles in one partner suppressing feelings or divorce.
Try finding a middle ground of compromise.

Answer by Happy-2
It can work if you’re both willing to bend. You say he “rarely” wants sex, but if you can find a middle ground, it might satisfy you. Talk with him, and really talk, don’t nag or complain. Bring up the discussion as a negotiation, and be sure to point out that if he meets you in the middle he will reap the benefit of not having to listen to you beg for sex ever again. This might mean that he will sometimes have to please you sexually even when he’s not in the mood, but don’t all husbands do things for their wives sometimes that they don’t feel like doing? For example, I am never in the mood to do dishes, but if my wife wants my help, I get up and help her. Tell him he should treat sex with you the same way if it helps, because anything that’s very important to one partner in a marriage should be considered important to the other one too.

Answer by lala
its not the #1 but it is very important

Answer by Sandy Ego
Yes, it can, if this partner learns to find satisfaction in other facets of marriage. It probably won’t survive if partners can’t adapt to each other’s needs and demands.