How do I get my teenager to stop “falling in love” so quickly?

CenFlMom: How do I get my teenager to stop “falling in love” so quickly?
My 14 yo son has a girl problem. About every two weeks or so, he tells me about another new girlfriend. I find letters that they’ve wrote to each other (he never remembers to empty his pockets before throwing clothes into the laundry) and they have “I love you” all over them. I’ve tried explaining to him that it isn’t love and that it would be incredibly rare to find his perfect someone this early on. Yesterday, I even had a girl’s mother come up to me and yell at me because my son told her daughter that he loved her after going out for only two days! We a have a rule that dating isn’t allowed until 16 and he doesn’t. Should I also block all “romantic” friendships until then?

Answers and Views:

Answer by hari prasad
tell them to be matured enough to understand the life and relationship

Answer by dE
just make sure he dosent have sex

Answer by coco
2 weeks?? what a player. well i guess love does relaly exist in teenage relationships. i have experienced and i know. but i think your son is just in it for the fun and popularity

Answer by cute devil
its of no use…he wont understand the difference between love and infatuation until he really falls in love…meanwhile you can keep telling him that what he feels is not love…thats all you can do…he is in a stage where he has hormonal changes going on in his body and in teenage years teens dont understand that they can be wrong too…for them they are always right…but over the years hopefully he will understand…best of luck

Answer by princess
you can fall in love at any age!! but you have to know the person and love them for who they are teenagers are capable of falling in love my friend met her husband when she was 14!

Answer by dawn w
awww id let him be, its all part of growing up and how can he know what love is till he finds it? i think the other woman was being way over the top, kids are kids and i think its sweet.
most first loves are as a teenager, i know my mum met my dad when she was 13 and they had me and my brother but got broken hearted when it all ended 8 years later, each of my uncles and aunts can say the same and even me, i met few boyfriends as a teen and thought i loved each one till i met someone special when i was 14, wow i thought we would last forever the chemistry was amazing something that only comes from a first love, my parents knew better than to intervene and let it run its course, 5 years into our relationship we had a beautiful little girl but a year later we got our hearts broken in realiseing we had run to the courses end of “first love” but now our three year old is healthy happy and both me and him are great friends and wouldnt change any of our past from the beautiful little girl we got, we did learn that first love never lasts but its something we had to do and our parents were right to let it run its course, at first theytried to stop it which ushed us further together but as soon as they accepted it funnily enough we began to realise we werent as perfect as we thought we were.
I kow when my little ones grow up i wont be interfering, if you stop them you push them together, if you let them be it will run its course.
I know people have loads of opinions but you cant put an old head on young shoulders, we have to let them make their own mistakes, something which my dad preached to me but now i realise he was right all the way…. kids have to make their own mistakes to turn into independant young men/women.

Answer by Jennelle
Your view of love and a 15 year old’s view of love are entirely different. I think you should leave him be! He’ll grow up and he’ll mature and start to find out what real love is! And thank God he’s loving on the girls right? Don’t be too hard on him…..he’ll live and he’ll learn.

Answer by yo_light243
they will start to fall in love, get denied, hearts broken and ect. ..i would say just dont let them have sex, let him get the feel of being love with girls and later on getting rejected by one so that he doesnt do that again and learn from his mistakes.