How did you make it through being a teenager and going through puberty?

Madison R: How did you make it through being a teenager and going through puberty?
I’m 12 almost 13 and I live with my dad and my older brother. My mom is cut of from communication with us. I just want to know how to get through being a teenager and puberty and stuff. It’s kind of hard with two boys around. It seems like I can’t get any advice. So does any one have any advice for me?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Lil’ Sooz
My mom and I weren’t close so I couldn’t talk to her and then there was my dad and brother. I just got advice from my friends and when things went bad, I ate a lot of icecream which actually is soothing.

Answer by A1C Stivender
Your close girlfriends, an aunt or cousin (female)

Answer by Brian J
I think it is illegal to talk about this..you probly a 50 year old guy

Answer by Ashley S
honey get horny who cares but your gunna be getting your period and vagina hair shave that and when youu get your period get tampons or pads.and you might get acne.

Answer by gufbal
do you have a mentor you can talk to, like a female school councilor, or even dads girlfriend? worst case scenario try sites like webmd to help answer any of your physical questions, and use your school councilor for the complicated stuff like your feelings. If you have any female family members at all talk to them. be open and honest and blunt about what you want to know, they will understand.

Answer by Ryan
you have to be your own person when your a teenager. Don’t do something just to fit in with a crowd. puberty is tough for everyone. but you just have to be strong and you will get through it.

Answer by Rahul A
i am 14 going on 15 and hmm tough question… basically go with the flow and DO NOT associate with the wrong crowd cuz this is the age were drugs and alcohol kicks in so be care on who are u with…

Answer by omgiitskristina
I’m 11 years old and my period started at the end of september 2008 .. its hard to notice if ur going through puberty at first.. but then u start noticing different things, like ur feelings and hermoines like u will be usually crabby.. and in a bad mood.. and a period usually last for.. in the beginning 1 to 2 days and later on maybe a year later almost a week..

I hope I helped!

Answer by go humans.
maybe I’ve been reading too much, but the way you phrased this question, not to mention your situation really remind me of the Alice books. You should read them, gosh knows they were my survival guide through middle/high school. don’t start on ‘Agony of Alice’ (the first one) you’ll think it’s lame, too young. I would start on Alice on the Outside or the one before it, or the one before that.

Answer by hsooms_sb
Friends, friends mom, aunts, cousins, school counselors or teachers, the health department.
And be honest with your dad, let him know your going to be growing up and you’ll need things like tampons/pads, under wear, bras.
Tell him if he feels uncomfortable then find someone who can help you.
I’m sure your dad will help you in any way if you let him know what you need. But if it is too uncomfortable, ask a friends mom. Thats what i would probably do.
wow tough situation, you’ll get through it though. its not too bad.
Make sure you do see a gynecologist around 16 or 17. that is very important.

Answer by ♦ $av ♦
Obey your dad even though you probably wont agree with things anymore. If you listen and obey him you’ll save yourself a lot of punishment. Don’t act on feelings. Your feeling are going to change very often. Keep you period stuff in a bag that is not see-through next to the toilet at all times. Take ib profen of advil when you’re cramping, and try hot tea. This is just some general advice. Hope it helps.

Answer by Jen F
How about talking to a friends’ mom? But I think the best advice I can give you is: Don’t be ashamed or scared to ask your dad for help. He might not be completely comfortable dealing with his little girl growing up, but he is aware of whats going on with you and will be able to help with the basics. As far as advise that only another woman would know: again, ask a friends’ mom.

Answer by John S.
I have a daughter your age and I understand how tough it is if you don’t have a sympathetic or understanding person in your world. My mother didn’t bond with me emotionally because she worked so much and was tired when she got home. I found solace in playing my piano and it became my voice. I practiced and became good enough to go pro. My piano teacher was also in my mind almost more meaningful than my own mother because my piano teacher understood me.

I don’t know your relationship with your Dad or what kind of father he is, but don’t be afraid to request some one-on-one time with him just to talk. And direct the conversation towards feelings and things that are meaningful to you.

You’ve not explained why your mother is cut off from communicating with you. Please email me because I am trained in this area and may have some solutions for you if having a communciations connection with her is something you want and are allowed.

In general, I had a tendancy to take some things too seriously when I was your age. I dwelled on certain things that happened and often interpreted too much into them. You will learn in time that the greatest power you have is to CHOOSE to be happy and not let others MAKE you feel anything you don’t want. Once you realize that it is only you who controls your emotions, then you know that others don’t have as much power over you as you may have thought.

Don’t be afraid to take chances in conversation. You can reveal things about yourself and not get hurt. People find it charming when you do reveal how you really feel about something.

And gravitate to the kinds of people who will charge your emotional batteries versus drain them. You will learn from these kinds of people and they can learn from you. We all have a gift to offer in life so feel valued and appreciated, just for being alive. Focus on others and not so much obcession with self because you will find that the more you give, the more you will get in return.

Answer by xoxogirl101
get advice from your friends,aunts and of curose us on answers website 🙂
im sorry that you have only a brother and a dad to live with. 🙁

Answer by Dawn
There is a great book called “What’s happening to my body” that will help alot. Meanwhile, you need to find a female mentor. Good luck.

Answer by ♥Ethan’s Dancer♥
I’m going to be 15 next month and so far, being a teenager and going through puberty has been like a rollarcoaster!
My WHOLE family is girls so I’ve always had somebody to go to for advice- but I NEVER went to them because I was embarrassed by it. So I’ve been pretty much dealing with it on my own…which is scary :O

Do you have an Aunt to talk to?
Cousin?
Friends?