sweet and low: How close to the wedding are we suposed to have the bridal shower or wedding shower?
My wedding is in early August and I want to have my bridal shower at the end of April. Is that too soon. When should i have it? Are bridal showers and wedding showers the same thing? I dont know how these things work, help me out a little. Its my first time.Is there a rule to these things?
Answers and Views:
Answer by Jaime
idk if wedding showers and bridal showers are the same thing, but I would say April is to early for the shower. I’d say 2-3 weeks before the wedding
Answer by Amanda
my wedding is august 1 and we are planning the bridal shower in late june.
Answer by seamstress
As a bride, your should not be planning your own bridal shower (yes, bridal showers and wedding showers are the same thing).
And, yes, a bridal shower four months before the wedding is too soon. Bridal showers are usually a month or so before the wedding date.
Don’t worry about not knowing the “rules”. How would you know, this is your first wedding!!
Just remember one thing, because this is very important: NEVER ask for money from a guest at your shower or your wedding. Good.
Answer by Ava Jayne
Generally a shower is thrown a month or so before the wedding. A bridal shower is for the females in the brides life, kind of like a pg bachlorette party. A wedding shower are more open to men being there and the hubby-to-be can even be present.
Answer by Avis B
A shower is not organized or planned or scheduled by the Bride.
So, let’s start take a giant step backwards and do it the right way.
Neither the Bride nor the Bride’s Mother nor the Groom’s Mother nor any sisters or sister-in-laws should host (plan, organize or pay for) a shower. It is a form of solicitation and inappropriate. Many people use the terms wedding and bridal shower interchangeably but usually a bridal shower applies to items or gifts “for the Bride” and a wedding shower applies to items or gifts “for the Bride and Groom.”
A shower is usually hosted by the Maid or Matron of Honor UNLESS she is an immediate member of the family. If the Maid of Honor is the Bride’s sister then one of the bridesmaids should host the shower (with the other bridal party members helping her).
A shower is supposed to be an intimate gathering of the Bride and Groom’s co-workers, family members and/or close friends. It is NOT a gift unwrapping marathon for 99 people at the local Holiday Inn for six hours that includes lots of cocktails and a U-Haul truck to take away the gifts.
The shower should take place at least 30 DAYS before the wedding date because there are so many things to do in that last 30 day time period.
Printed invitations should be mailed out at least three weeks in advance of the party with a RSVP (at least seven days before the party) so the hostess know how many people are attending. The party invitation can include the location (s) of the Bride and Groom’s wedding registry (this is the only place it is appropriate).
A shower can have a theme, here’s a few examples: kitchen and bath, time of day, lingerie, and honeymoon.
A shower can take place at someone’s home on a Monday night at 7PM or at the local pizza place on a Sunday afternoon at 1PM.
And the food can be as simple as vegetables and dip or as elaborate as a three course tea party followed by a decorated sheet cake.
The decorations can be as simple as a bouquet of the Bride’s favorite flowers to yards and yards of white tulle, paper wedding bells, and balloons.
Traditionally, the shower is a SURPRISE for the Bride UNLESS she lives far, far away and then a different set of rules applies.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
Answer by Mrs. FarrisI don’t think there are hard and fast rules as to when you can have your shower. But, you shouldn’t be hosting it yourself. According to the Emily Post wedding etiquette book, brides aren’t supposed to host their own showers. Typically, it’s done by your wedding party or by close female friends.
I got married in October 2009. I had two bridal showers. My MOH hosted one in June 2009. My future SIL’s and bridesmaid hosted another in mid-August. It was a ton of fun!
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