How can you tell if someone you talk to on a dating site is real or just a scammer?

just me: How can you tell if someone you talk to on a dating site is real or just a scammer?
A man on a dating site started chatting with me and we started an online romance but things didnt start to add up with him and he asked if I could send him money cuz son had emergency in Nigeria where he was working

Answers and Views:

Answer by Nicole Lee
sounds like a straight-up scam.

Answer by Kendel
Dont fall for it you dont give someone money that you dont know how dumb are you?

Answer by Kittysue
It’s a scam – everyone who meets any scammer on a dating site will either get into a car accident or their child will end up in hospital. It’s one of the most common ways to get you to send money

1 -Nigeria has the National Health Insurance Scheme since 1999 so medical treatment is free in government hospitals. You can’t even get into a private hospital without having private insurance. In any emergency, patients are brought to public hospitals.
2 – If this person was foreign and working in Nigeria, he could not even get a visa without proof of private insurance. The sponsoring employer would normally offer private insurance to cover treatment in private clinics – that’s a standard part of any expat package
3 – a call to this person’s embassy in Nigeria will prove there is no such citizen by that name with a work visa, and no child in hospital. Any foreigner working overseas registers with their embassy. And every time a foreigner is admitted to hospital overseas, their embassy is immediately informed so they can contact family and friends.
4 – if this person was really overseas working and needed money, they couldn’t get help from their employer? Seriously – the only foreigners working in Nigeria are oil executive easily making $ 250k a year – they would never need to ask for monay. Even in a private hospital, the most expensive medical treatments would cost less than $ 1000 and that’s for open heart surgery that would cost $ 100k in the US

Want to confirm it’s a scam – write back to say that you called the emergency number at the embassy with his son’s name and hospital name and they are sending a consular attache to the hospital first thing in the morning to make sure his son is getting adequate treatment, make sure the hospital is not charging him for any treatments as he is covered by the national health insurance scheme, and will give him an emergency loan that you have guaranteed so he and his son can come home. No matter what excuse he comes up with, just say the embassy told you they are going to take care of everything and you don’t need to do anything

Read the State Department’s own warning about Nigerian romance scams
https://travel.state.gov/travel/cis_pa_tw/financial_scams/financial_scams_4554.html
“The scammer has incredibly bad luck– often getting into car crashes, arrested, mugged, beaten, or hospitalized — usually all within the course of a couple of months. They often claim that their key family members (parents and siblings) are dead. Sometimes, the scammer claims to have an accompanying child overseas who is very sick or has been in an accident.”

Answer by The Good Shepherd gives His life for the sheep.
This one is definately a scammer. He has most likely asked for money from very many people

-Scammers usually profess love too quickly
-They like asking for personal info, e.g. phone, address etc (what do they need them for anyway?)
-Beware of nigerians- they are popular for scamming people
-they usually seek to impress if not, they want to get your symphathy (protray themselves as very needy and so need all the help they can get)

One of the BBC channels air programs on scammers