How can I tell if my maternity clock is really ticking?

Intuitive Dreamer: How can I tell if my maternity clock is really ticking?
You know how they say your maternity clock is ticking, if you want a child?
Well how do you know? Is it more than simply the urge to be a mommy?
What can you do if yours IS ticking, but you’re only 20 and single, and don’t want kids til you are established somewhat in your career?
Hmm…well apparently I had this a little mixed up lol I suppose what I really meant to ask was, more along the lines of…should at 20 I be already wanting children like crazy?! lol
I am not worried about the time running out, maybe the clock as someone mentioned, just had the batteries put in? lol
I know I could handle kids for sure, I love them and was a live-in full time nanny for half a year with a nearly two year old boy.
I also have worked briefly in a private daycare.
So I know I can handle all of that, its natural for me, but I am wondering if 20 is the average age or so for women to start desiring children seriously lol

Answers and Views:

Answer by smilingredangel
hang around some kids. If you just can’t get enough of them, you want some bad, like me.
If they start bugging you, and you can’t stand them, no kids right now! LOL

Answer by sick-o’-yo-sh**
Oh jeez…20…girl your clock should just be getting the batteries put in. You have at least 10-15 years to have children.

And yes your “maternity clock” is the urge to have kids…but a strong urge like you have to do it now or it will never happen. But if you said you dont want any till your established then you’re not ready yet!

Answer by wanna_bea_ momma07
honey i doubt your clock is running out but i would go to the gynecologist and ask him/her for a fertility test.good luck

Answer by icareboutyu
It is always ticking but at 20 years old you have still got a lot of miles (kilometres) on the clock! If you are talking about being “clucky” well that’s a different thing. Hold off until you are more established (partner, home, carreer, support) wait until you have everything you need to allow you to be the absolute best Mother you can be!! Good luck!!!

Answer by Amanda
Your maternal clock is ticking really means that the older you are the more dangerous pregnacy can be, the baby is more likely to get downs or some other form of retardation the older you are, you start to be considered a high risk pregnancy at 35. so If you are only 20 and really want a baby Id do some baby sitting for now take your time get married be financially secure so then you can really enjoy your child

Answer by Chuckee
You need to go into a really, really quiet room and sit there all by yourself. Sit very still, do not move and try to barely even breathe. Now Listen very, very intently.

Now what you need to do in that very quiet environment is:

Think about whether you want to rush into having a child that you are not ready to have and probably can’t afford to raise properly. Most likely with a man who doesn’t really want to have a child but was just looking for sex. He is the guy that your child will be spending every other weekend with. You kind of hope he will marry you someday, he thinks your girlfriend is cuter than you.

Your job will barely pay enough for a babysitter, the person that will spend more time with your child than either one of its parents because you don’t have a career–you have a job, probably one that you hate. Welfare does help but it is very demeaning and all the grocery checkers look at you funny. You can’t get a date from any decent guys because who wants a ready made family?

You would not believe how many young women are in this position.

Now go back into the noisy real world go to school, get your career going and find a really great guy and when you are both ready and have known each other long enough get married buy a house and THEN have a family.

Remember when that was the way it was done. The baby was the last thing that a couple did instead of the FIRST…

When did they change the clocks anyway?

[;-)

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Answer by Love Sponge
sounds like you got a great head on your shoulders. Stick with your goals & everything will be fine. You obviously have the means & will power to follow you own instinct, so go ahead. Do what you are doing & get that career.

As far as your “clock”… i think that it just an old wives tale. Ladies have babies clear into their 60’s…. many without a good career or plans of how to actually RAISE the kid in a stable & loving environment.

You kid/s wont help your career, but your career will support your kid/s. Build your foundation from the ground up and you will be successful.

BTW; I personally measure success according to my own goals and the happiness of those who depend on me (my kids, etc)… NOT according to society or someone elses version of success.

I hope this helps.

Enjoy your day!
Damon

Answer by starrwoode
you are just being silly at 20 you have no need, your so called clock doesnt really need to tick at all till about 35, which is how old my daughter is, and she is thinking of giving her little girl a baby sibling, but the cat says no.

Answer by surrealbutnice
i think its perfectly fine to have that strong urge at 20….its basic human instinct. you are at the peak of your life, and your body knows it….your maternal drive is kicking in….i am 19 and have been feeling it lately, too……i asked my “Sexual Behaviors” professor and he explained this to me.

As a back-up note, I am a Psychology major at the University of Central Florida

Answer by georgiegirl422
i don’t think at the age of 20 you should be so worried about having a child. i think you should be worried about having something for yourself for a few years and living the life you want so you don’t feel like you’ve missed anything when you do decide to settle down and have kids.
i’m 28 and I am three months pregnant with my first child. I graduated from college, have found a job that I enjoy (finally after working at the mall for far too long), and have been married for three years. The minute I got married, the pressure to procreate was immense. All of my cousins had kids within the first year they were married.
Right now I do feel a little bit like the oldest first time mom in my county, but honestly I know that i’ve made the right decision by waiting.

Answer by trista
its normal. I wanted kids soooo bad for a long time! early 20 like you. I knew I had to wait for Mr Right though!! sometimes that takes a while. when you find him then work on the babies!
good luck