How Can i get my Fiancee to Forgo the First dance?

Jayden: How Can i get my Fiancee to Forgo the First dance?
Our Wedding is about 4months away and i have been trying to get my fiancee to like forgo the Traditional first dance because for one i can’t dance worth a flip and two i don’t really want to do it in front of 250 people =/. I have been trying to convince my fiancee to get rid of it since we began planning the wedding but she is making a huge deal out of it for some reason and i don’t understand. I have been letting her make this wedding into her special/dream wedding but seriously why can’t she do this one thing for me? Advice?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Totemic
Take a dance lesson?

Answer by Savannah Storm
you have 4 months, you can get dancing lessons… me and my hub had to do that otherwise we would have made fools of ourselves.

Answer by yaritza
i would seat down with her and explain to her in detail your last sentence. If your giving in to all she wants she can let you have this one thing. Explain to her that your not comfortable dancing and that you guy need to compromise on this one thing. If she loves you and I assume she does she will eventually see your side of it. Try to come up with alternatives thing to do instead of the dance.

Answer by hazelnut1106
I am sorry to break this to you but you cannot skip the first dance. If you do the party part of the wedding reception never seems to begin. The first dance is not just the first dance because it is the first time you are dancing as husband and wife but also because traditionally nobody will use the dance floor until you have danced.

Answer by LaVada A
Express your feelings to her. When I was watching the bridezilla show it was one episode that the man put his foot down to one thing he wanted and I feel it is fair. If you are making all the final decisions on everything else give your met one thing at least. Just talk to her and express your feelings and lastly try to take a dance lesson together or get her to show you how to dance for the first dance the way she is envisioning it. It should be a slow ballad right? Most are. Good luck and congrats!

Answer by I love my love
you don’t have to be able to dance in order to slow dance. if you can stand and shuffle your feet, you got it. I hate the idea of dancing with my groom and my Dad in front of 100 people but you know what? I have to do it for THEM. Even though I’m the bride I learned months ago the wedding isn’t about me, it’s about doing things for other people to make them happy. and once you have kids, haha! that’s your life forever!

Answer by almarj70
Don’t pay any attention to the people who are saying you have to have a first dance. I know in your fiancees situation if I knew that the man I loved was dreading it so much I would,WITHOUT hesitation skip it. I wouldn’t want him cringing with embarrassment on what is supposed to be his big day too.
But how about this for a compromise? You dance with your new wife for one verse, then you go and get her mother and dance with her, she goes and gets your dad and dances with him for another verse then all 4 of you go and choose a different person from the crowd of friends and family, and so on until the song is finished. There is safety in numbers and all eyes will be on you for a maximum of one minute .

Answer by 4REEE
Looking at it from her point of view, “You can’t do a simple ‘sway, sway,’ dance for me?”

C’mon. She’s not really asking a lot.

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Answer by sarah
You can have two or three minutes of people watching you do the First dance
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you can have a whole evening of people asking when you are doing the first dance, why you’re not doing the first dance and persuading you that you really should do the first dance. That sounds like a lot of fun, doesn’t it?

I’m pretty sure that no body is expecting you to tango across the room with a rose in your mouth. I’ve seen many couples who have basically just done a kind of shuffle while looking at each other. Nobody seemed to mind.

Answer by tamara k
Find a compromise that allows her to make an idiot of herself on the dance floor with out you having to get up and dance. If you can’t figure one out you are just going to have to bite the bullet and get dance lessons so that you don’t look like a country bumpkin idiot!

We didn’t do the dance at my wedding- I HATE making an idiot of myself and being the centre of attention I put up with enough of that at the ceremony! Plus I don’t dance (hubby does, I don’t!)
My husband IS an accomplished sword fighter in the European styles, he and his friends did a mock battle instead of us doing the dance.

The guests were happy, they got their ‘spectacle’, I was happy- I didn’t have to get up on the dance floor and hubby was happy- he got to show off. The only person who WASN’T happy was hubbies Aunt, but she’s a (insert VERY unsavoury word) and we stopped talking to her not long after the wedding because of something her husband said about mine.

Answer by Desirae C
usually the first dance is slow. you do not have to do much. put your arms around her and just dance in a lil circle.

One thing you can do is just have you two dancing for about 30 seconds then have the dj invite everyone else on the dance floor.

The first dance is an important part of the wedding for a bride. Practice slow dancing with your fiance. It really is not that hard… 5th graders do it