First Christmas together – How do you decide where to spend the holidays?

sunshine_emmy: First Christmas together – How do you decide where to spend the holidays?
My (somewhat) long-distance boyfriend & I started dating in January, so although we’ve been together for almost a year, this will be our first Christmas together. We’re in the process of ‘negotiating’ how/where we’re going to spend Christmas & New Years. How does everyone do this when they’re close to their family but those two families are four hours apart?

Answers and Views:

Answer by me h
my parents have 3 kids out of the house so for years now they’ve held there get together on christmas eve leaving us kids free to go to our inlaws and christmas day, or just stay home with our hubbies and kids.

Answer by Mustangcase97
Pick one side to go to New Years
the other for Christmas
and even through Thanksgiving in there and save one holiday for just the two of you.

They’re all close holidays and should be celebrated with family. And maybe have them decided which holiday they would want or share. GL

Answer by Nickaree
I hate the holidays for this specific reason. (I don’t hate them but I dread trying to figure this out). It’s hard making everyone happy especially when one side of the family is bigger and more fun to hang out with. I try to make it as fair as possible but luckily our familys live close to each other, with in a half hour. So it makes it hectic trying to go to two family’s dinners in the same day. Lately it’s gotten better with my side agreeing to have it the next day.
I suggest you go to one family’s one year and the other family’s the next year or figure out which family it would be easier on to have it on a different day, like the next day.
Good luck to you, hope your family’s more understanding than mine!

Answer by writerthee
Thanksgiving at one place, Christmas at another. Save Christmas Eve for just the two of you.

Answer by Ryan’s Mommy
Oh this is what sucks about the holidays!
For example this year for Thanksgiving we will be having lunch with my inlaws than traveling about 2 & half hours to spend dinner with my family and stay the night. this is our babies first holidays so our families are fighting for our time… its hard

Answer by Harry is my HERO!
Maybe you could organize a get together at a luxury bed and breakfast and spending it somewhere in the middle? Get everyone a T-Shirt saying “(last name here) and (last name here’) reuinion #1” and having a picture of you guys and listing the names?

Answer by Little_Mami _Chula_30
Spend Christmas Eve with one Family and Christmas Day with the other.
New years eve spend together, just the two of you, or this year spend it with your family and next year with his or vice versa.

Answer by scotty
You know, what works best is deciding what you both want. Maybe you could make a compromise… i know this seems silly. For example this Christmas you spend with you family and then next Christmas with his. This should not be strict though like if you run into complications and can’t spend it with your family but its “your” Christmas then don’t ruin it and say hey since its mine lets just stay home because we can’t hang out with my family. Instead go celebrate with his, don’t be greedy. Hope this helps!!!

or maybe you could spend christmas eve how he wants and christmas how you want.

Answer by live-laugh-love
spend new years eve with one family and christmas with the other. u good even have the one family come with u to the other familys party or day or watever so u can all have a great time.hope this helps!