Liz: dating…….??!?
I really like this guy, Greg. i’m going to turn 16 and i’m not sure what my parents might think about me going out with a guy yet, he does like me and he’s willing to wait. I know my parents would prefer me going out on dates at age 18, but I feel I am mature enough. I do not know how to approach my parents on that subject though, i’ll admit i am afraid because my dad does not even want me to mention the word “dating”/”going out” in front of him; my dad still sees me as his baby girl; my mom always critizes the guys I like and i feel uncomfortable talking to her and especially my dad about stuff like this. I do know that they’re just trying to protect me but i do think i’m mature enough to know what’s going on. I think i’d like to start by introducing Greg to them as my friend (we currently are friends) but we have a mutual liking to one another, but I don’t know how I’ll be able to or how i’ll be able to bring up the subject of dating. Any suggestions?
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Answer by Willysmithy
Listen Ask Your Parents. Tell Him what you told us. He’ll Probably say yeah. Whats The worst that could happen. And besides Greg is willing to wait so just keep cool.
sounds like your stuck. tell your parents that Greg is your friend and invite him for dinner or something so your parents can get to know him then just hang out with him but dont call it datingAnswer by Matthew W
I think it’s a good idea to ask your parents if your “friend” can come to a social event of yours or family outing so that everyone can meet this cat. Keep in mind that as parents they have keen senses for what is inappropriate, etc. Remember that they were once there are as trying to introduce another as their “friend”.Answer by A.J.
Yes introduce him as a friend and make sure ur parents like him. Them start from there. Tell ur parents that u think that u are mature enough to start a relationship, and thank them for protecting u, but say tha u think it is time….
Good luckAnswer by ashley c
Get to know him as well as you can and then do what your heart feels like doing !!!!Answer by jen
Ask your parents but mine said that i can officaly date when i’m 16 or when i get my permit(Drivivng).Answer by …somebody…
Have Greg over to your house a bunch (if your parents will allow this) for dinner with your fam and stuff. After your parents get to know him as your friend, have Greg ask your dad about dating. Your dad will at least appreciate Greg being man enough to approach him about it. It will give your dad a great respect for Greg. Then my advice is respect whatever conclusion your parents come to, and DON’T WHINE whatever they say to you!!! That’s a big turn-off to parents and will not make them believe you are mature.Answer by uncle_derk
A movie esp a double date MIGHT be OK. A public date like bowling or miniature golf or tennis…so much the better. Touching is what escallates friendships into seemingly torrid love affairs that fizzle out leaving someone pregnant or heart-broken. A lot of really-going-nowhere “hook-ups” get started this way…innocently. Esp you sit on his lap in a crowded car and “VOILA!” …YOU fell in LOVE!
His hormones are just raging…but YOU are in LOVE!Answer by systemofadownlover!
Well by the way you talk you do sound very mature for your age. Your parents are just trying to protect you from what is bound to happen eventually, which is heartache. The first guy I was with I swore that I was head over heels in love and I actually gave my virginity to him. Now I realized that I definitely should have waited, it was absolutely horrible. My second boyfriend I actually dated for 2 years and even though we broke up there was nothing bitter about it (We are next door neighbors and we somewhat still hang out, play tennis and get along). Just let your parents know that you’re ready to date and that you’re no longer a baby, but you’re growing up and starting to explore your sexuality, which is a normal thing. Quite frankly, you have 12 and 13 year old girls out there getting pregnant, so by my standards you are doing an excellent job. Just don’t get caught up in this guy and let him become your world, it will devastate you if things don’t end up working out. Good luck and sorry for the essay!Answer by SweetieMo
hmm sweetie im not so sure on this one but my best guess is that you should talk to him and tell him that your parents are kinda sensitive about that subject and like if u have a party or a dinner party or whatever invite him and introduce him to your parents and make it clear to them without saying it that you guys spend alot of time together and one night at dinner invite him and before dinner you and him plan out something ur gonna say and have him ask your parents ( very formally ) after dinner ” Mr. and Mrs. ————– I relly like your daughter and I was wondering if it would be ok if she went with me to ————- ( like the movies or something ) “Answer by thechristmasgoat
I understand that you think you’re mature enough to make your own decisions and all. I thought that same way when I was your age. But now I know my parents knew better. Dating seems to be fun and risk free from what we see on TV, but it is not a game. There are other risks apart from the obvious sexual implications and pregnancy or STDs. Becoming emotionally attached to the wrong person can cause you serious psychological damage, specially when you’re young and vulnerable.
Believe me, you will have time for dating later on. Now it is time for you to learn, prepare for the future, make lots of friends and not having to worry about emotial commitment.
I know you may not like this answer, but I would like you to think about it.
Answer by cayey911start slow, my best advice if you introduce him as your intrest or guy you like its gonna just mess things up. i say bring him around as a friend but let your parnts like him and just hang out. start slow and see what they think of your friend then you never know maybe they will trust him to go out with you as a friend and might accept him little by little. like snaeking around but without all the drama. now if they don’t like him as a fiend then its gonna be tough. its hard to get parents to like anyone you date because you belong to them and they want whats best. think before you do anything that will be to crazy or that you kow they can’t handle like if he is around don’t hide and go kissing if you get caught its gonna be problems so anything you do make sure its outside your house. protect yourself and respect your parents the best thing anyone can tell you.Answer by Aguiar
Hi, Liz.
I will try to help you.
What may be disturbing your dad´s mind is that you may get pregnant of a guy who cannot afford that situation.
Most of the fathers are frightened by this. Or he may be afraid of you being sad if that does not work (the relation itself).
You are really too young but most girls experience first love events at that age.
Dating is something special, since we get fulfilled with a feelling of something strong, big and nice.
Being loved is like heaven on earth.
I advise you to go very slowly presenting your friend to your parents and let them accept him little by little.
Perhaps he may be “adopted” by them and you two may begin something deeper.
I would ask you to be very careful with sex.
This is very “sacred” and mark you deep inside forever.
Love may be good or evil, depending on the way it is leaded to.
Talk to your mother about it. She may help you.
I wish you the best of luck.
Greetings from Brazil.
Answer by ramni222many very young girls have had problems boys, that why they don’t want to to date before 18.
your parents do not want you to start dating until age 18 because they want you to be safe.
at 18 you are way more mature and are better able to handle relationships in general and with boys in particular.
suggest you consider living by their rules.
you can still be friends with greg, but not as boyfriend.
i know you are thinking why do i have parents like this. but you will see later that they are right.
i had so many rules i almost went crazy. i later realized my parents just loved me and wanted me to be safe.
Answer by Sayak GhoshListen Ask Your Parents. Tell Him what you told us. He’ll Probably say yeah. Whats The worst that could happen. And besides Greg is willing to wait so just keep cool.Answer by Jinx A
Well,I totally understand you feeling uncomfortable talking about that type of stuff in front of your parents.Its like a common phobia lol
As for your mum critizizing the guys you like,she probably doing it because she dosent know enought about him,to find something good about him.
If she keeps it up,tell her,”You should never look for the bad things in people, especially if you dont know them.”(if shes already told you that once in her life,tell her shes a Hypacrite.Just joking)
Before hand,you may want to introduce him to your parents at an event like,any type of nonpersonal event,Tell them you’re just friends from school or something like that.
Make sure to be/act extremely responsible and well behaved.Dont argue with your parents or….Greg.
Find the right time to tell them like When they’re in a good mood (Or when they’re drunk.Not likely.lol.)
In a situation like that,It is important to stay clam because the angryer and more worked up you get,the less they’ll think that you’re responsible enough for a relationship.
Be very polite to them when explaining your desire to date.
To bring up the subject of dating,you could ask (& pretend to be interested) about how they met,when they had theyre first dates and how old they were (By asking what year they had theyre first dates)and so on.Although,this might not work if you already know.(If they say they already told you then just make tell em’ you forgot,unless they told you just last week.lol.)try and keep the conversation flowing for a little bit until it gets to the point when you’re having a bit of a laugh and you’re all in good moods,then you should tell them.
Dont get angry if they say no.it may ruin future chances of dating.
Anyway,If none of this helps you out
Here are a few Wikihow articles that might help you out.(But you may have already looked at)
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https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Overprotective-Parents
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https://www.wikihow.com/Convince-Your-Parents-That-Your-Friends-Are-Good-People
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https://www.wikihow.com/Tell-Your-Parents-That-You-Like-Other-Girls/Boys
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https://www.wikihow.com/Prove-You%27re-Responsible-to-Your-Parents
Sorry about the length btw.
Answer by IfreeFlowerYou don’t need to be worry about that. I have the same experience. I was on Love Biker for a couple of Months…..I recieved several E-Mails and Proposals and offers, but…They wernt what I was Looking For….I wanted a Certain Special Lady that I wasnt even sure existed…..But…One Day I found a Profile….onewild469 ….and after reading it…I Knew she was it
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Answer by surf_grl_of_Calido wat u think is right 🙂 glAnswer by Rawr
If he asks you out on a date, GO. tell your mom/dad that your going to the movies with your bff jill or w/e and they WILL believe you. I do it all the time with this guy KEN
Not that I’m telling you to lie. It really is a friend. And if things get bigger between you then start telling your parents the truth. That’s what me & Ken plan to do.
Hope it helps!!
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